Comments for Guys Together http://guystogether.wordpress.com Exploring male friendship Sun, 29 Nov 2009 21:16:01 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by maybebi http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-294 maybebi Sun, 29 Nov 2009 21:16:01 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-294 Some would probably argue that they weren't really "straight" in the first place, if they were eager for same-sex sex - just bi/gay guys who hadn't had a chance to realize it before. "we know what guys want" - ok, yeah, but does it make a guy "gay" to let himself be pleasured by another guy? I dunno. And part of it comes down to what he did back, if anything, and how much he enjoyed that. But isn't there a difference between "this guy got off when I went down on him" and "he liked going down on me so much he's never going to get within a mile of a woman"? Sure, he may be back for another blowjob when he gets horny again, but I'm not sure it makes him "gay" anymore than jerking off when he's horny again makes him "autosexual". "Facultative bisexual", yeah, but not strictly guys only. Some would probably argue that they weren’t really “straight” in the first place, if they were eager for same-sex sex – just bi/gay guys who hadn’t had a chance to realize it before. “we know what guys want” – ok, yeah, but does it make a guy “gay” to let himself be pleasured by another guy? I dunno. And part of it comes down to what he did back, if anything, and how much he enjoyed that. But isn’t there a difference between “this guy got off when I went down on him” and “he liked going down on me so much he’s never going to get within a mile of a woman”? Sure, he may be back for another blowjob when he gets horny again, but I’m not sure it makes him “gay” anymore than jerking off when he’s horny again makes him “autosexual”. “Facultative bisexual”, yeah, but not strictly guys only.

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by Kevin http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-293 Kevin Sun, 29 Nov 2009 20:10:31 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-293 Wtf every you can too change a straight guy gay I did it a lot Football players and wrestling players its so easy.... girls don't get mad just because we do it better, we know what guys want. Wtf every you can too change a straight guy gay I did it a lot Football players and wrestling players its so easy…. girls don’t get mad just because we do it better, we know what guys want.

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by jack http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-291 jack Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:02:35 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-291 The overwhelming majority of Straight guys can be seduced. I think it's close to 85%. Remembe the Kinsey Report in the 50's and 60's? A majority of Str8 guys had reported at least one homosexual experience. The overwhelming majority of Straight guys can be seduced. I think it’s close to 85%. Remembe the Kinsey Report in the 50’s and 60’s? A majority of Str8
guys had reported at least one homosexual experience.

]]> Comment on Guys Together: About the site by Lesk http://guystogether.wordpress.com/about/#comment-290 Lesk Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:33:11 +0000 #comment-290 I’m really glad I’ve come across your blog and seen I’m not the only one with such ‘problems’. Where do I begin? Well, first of all, I need to tell you I had a brother whom I could grow up with. So there was no lack of brotherhood when I was a kid as in your case. Unfortunately my brother died when on his teens leaving a huge emptiness in my life. After his death I actually realized how close we were and how empty my life became, and that’s how my search for a bromance started. To make a long story short - I met HIM when I started my first year at uni and it was a click from the first sight (hahaha...). I had finally found that missing piece in my life. Even his family started to treat me as one of them. And I really felt like I’d fitted in. It was a strong emotional connection and nothing more. So our friendship evolved over the time and after a while I began to realize that I had a huge crash on him. To make things even worse for me we shared a bed a few times. Nothing happened, even though you could cut the tension with a knife. But there was this one night we were out, sitting in a pub, drinking wine, talking bubbles and suddenly our eyes met. I can’t describe what I felt back then. I was definitely very scared and even more excited at the same time. We kissed. That was awesome and felt soooo natural. I couldn’t actually sleep that night thinking of what had happened and plotting all those weird scenarios in my head, and asking myself all those ‘why’ and ‘how’ questions. The morning after he claimed he didn’t remember a thing blaming our 'drinking night out' for whatever might then have happened. Until our next encounter... It happened when we went snowboarding together. We were staying in this small private cabin so not only had we to share a room but also a bed! That night we got close and ended up having oral sex. We both wanted it to happen equally. A few days later I got completely cut off from his life and learnt he’d started dating this gal of his. They got pregnant and married (in this order) and I was left devastated. A total mess. I couldn’t find my own place for a long time, so to forget about him and make peace with myself I moved abroad and did more studying. You know, just to keep my head occupied. As they say, out of sight, out of mind... It’s been a while now. We haven’t spoken to each other since our ‘breakup’, and as of now I don’t picture myself with any other guy or anyone at all to be completely honest. I simply enjoy being single for the time being and I really mean it. Am I over him? Dunno. I’d like to think so though. But I’m also afraid that if he asked me to be with him right away, I would totally do it, no matter what. But this is very unlikely to happen. :) I’m really glad I’ve come across your blog and seen I’m not the only one with such ‘problems’.

Where do I begin? Well, first of all, I need to tell you I had a brother whom I could grow up with. So there was no lack of brotherhood when I was a kid as in your case. Unfortunately my brother died when on his teens leaving a huge emptiness in my life. After his death I actually realized how close we were and how empty my life became, and that’s how my search for a bromance started.

To make a long story short – I met HIM when I started my first year at uni and it was a click from the first sight (hahaha…). I had finally found that missing piece in my life. Even his family started to treat me as one of them. And I really felt like I’d fitted in. It was a strong emotional connection and nothing more. So our friendship evolved over the time and after a while I began to realize that I had a huge crash on him. To make things even worse for me we shared a bed a few times. Nothing happened, even though you could cut the tension with a knife.

But there was this one night we were out, sitting in a pub, drinking wine, talking bubbles and suddenly our eyes met. I can’t describe what I felt back then. I was definitely very scared and even more excited at the same time. We kissed. That was awesome and felt soooo natural. I couldn’t actually sleep that night thinking of what had happened and plotting all those weird scenarios in my head, and asking myself all those ‘why’ and ‘how’ questions. The morning after he claimed he didn’t remember a thing blaming our ‘drinking night out’ for whatever might then have happened. Until our next encounter…

It happened when we went snowboarding together. We were staying in this small private cabin so not only had we to share a room but also a bed! That night we got close and ended up having oral sex. We both wanted it to happen equally. A few days later I got completely cut off from his life and learnt he’d started dating this gal of his. They got pregnant and married (in this order) and I was left devastated. A total mess. I couldn’t find my own place for a long time, so to forget about him and make peace with myself I moved abroad and did more studying. You know, just to keep my head occupied. As they say, out of sight, out of mind…

It’s been a while now. We haven’t spoken to each other since our ‘breakup’, and as of now I don’t picture myself with any other guy or anyone at all to be completely honest. I simply enjoy being single for the time being and I really mean it. Am I over him? Dunno. I’d like to think so though. But I’m also afraid that if he asked me to be with him right away, I would totally do it, no matter what. But this is very unlikely to happen. :)

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by Xander http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-289 Xander Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:49:20 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-289 I'm a 40 year old attractive, intelligent gay man. However I'm not your typical "gay" guy. Other than the fact that I'm 40 and single, most people don't figure me as gay. Often I have women telling me that I just haven't met the right girl, etc; which I actually find insulting. That said, I get a lot of those 'curious straight' guys of all ages flirting with me. I can relate on some level to most of the stories posted here. The only thing I can say that I know for sure is that SEXUALITY IS COMPLICATED. It is not black & white. Large gray areas folks. It can be confusing and frustrating for me at times. In fact very often I wish I fit into the gay stereotype, because I feel it would be easier for me to meet people. I do believe that most everyone is bisexual to some extent. Our society readily accepts women who "experiment" with other women, but it's not okay for a man to experiment? That's too gay? In fact I really believe that homophobia in general is driven by women. Men aren't allowed to express themselves for fear that a woman would think they were gay and judge them for that. Don't get me wrong, I love women and have a few very close female friends. This is just a theory that I have recently realized. I’m a 40 year old attractive, intelligent gay man. However I’m not your typical “gay” guy. Other than the fact that I’m 40 and single, most people don’t figure me as gay. Often I have women telling me that I just haven’t met the right girl, etc; which I actually find insulting. That said, I get a lot of those ‘curious straight’ guys of all ages flirting with me. I can relate on some level to most of the stories posted here. The only thing I can say that I know for sure is that SEXUALITY IS COMPLICATED. It is not black & white. Large gray areas folks. It can be confusing and frustrating for me at times. In fact very often I wish I fit into the gay stereotype, because I feel it would be easier for me to meet people. I do believe that most everyone is bisexual to some extent. Our society readily accepts women who “experiment” with other women, but it’s not okay for a man to experiment? That’s too gay? In fact I really believe that homophobia in general is driven by women. Men aren’t allowed to express themselves for fear that a woman would think they were gay and judge them for that. Don’t get me wrong, I love women and have a few very close female friends. This is just a theory that I have recently realized.

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by maybebi http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-288 maybebi Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:39:53 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-288 What's your question? if he's really straight or not? I'd kinda question it too, sounds like he's very comfortable acting sexually with you. But if he doesn't want to identify as anything except straight, I'd just let him be about it. Maybe he'll eventually identify as bi, maybe he'll stop doing stuff with you (or other buds), maybe he'll keep on as he is. You're not necessarily going to do him or your friendship any favors by pushing him too hard to change his label. What’s your question? if he’s really straight or not? I’d kinda question it too, sounds like he’s very comfortable acting sexually with you. But if he doesn’t want to identify as anything except straight, I’d just let him be about it. Maybe he’ll eventually identify as bi, maybe he’ll stop doing stuff with you (or other buds), maybe he’ll keep on as he is. You’re not necessarily going to do him or your friendship any favors by pushing him too hard to change his label.

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by mr blue http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-287 mr blue Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:55:58 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-287 I have a question. Im a masculine bi guy and one of my supposedly straight friends acts just like a few of the gay ppl we kno. he doesnt kno about me but they do. when he talks he always plays and says miss ma'am, or bitch, or yesss!!!!! He tends to be very touchy when he is drunk such as hand massagin my shoulder in the club, hand on my waist in the crowd while drunk.....and we messed around alittle while drunk off our asses but he says he doesnt remember. I think ppl kno what they doin when they drunk especially when the finish and they say dont tell no one. another thing how many straight dudes do u kno that show there gay friends pictures of their dicks in their cellphone. I have a question. Im a masculine bi guy and one of my supposedly straight friends acts just like a few of the gay ppl we kno. he doesnt kno about me but they do. when he talks he always plays and says miss ma’am, or bitch, or yesss!!!!! He tends to be very touchy when he is drunk such as hand massagin my shoulder in the club, hand on my waist in the crowd while drunk…..and we messed around alittle while drunk off our asses but he says he doesnt remember. I think ppl kno what they doin when they drunk especially when the finish and they say dont tell no one. another thing how many straight dudes do u kno that show there gay friends pictures of their dicks in their cellphone.

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by Chuck Long http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-286 Chuck Long Sun, 01 Nov 2009 11:56:19 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-286 I agree with the above replies. Do not ATTEMPT TO SEDUCE A GUY IF HE SHOWS NO INTEREST. Value your friendship. If he wantss it, he will come around. Sooner or later, his curiousity will get the better of him if he's into it. Visit me at http://malespeak.info. I talk about all kinds of issues with gay and straight men. I agree with the above replies. Do not ATTEMPT TO SEDUCE A GUY IF HE SHOWS NO INTEREST. Value your friendship. If he wantss it, he will come around. Sooner or later, his curiousity will get the better of him if he’s into it.

Visit me at http://malespeak.info. I talk about all kinds of issues with gay and straight men.

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by jackson http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-285 jackson Sat, 31 Oct 2009 21:08:05 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-285 Given the right time and place you can have any str8 guy you want.I have had many. Sometimes it takes a while to gain the trust. One of my stories: I don't fall for guys totally over looks. Some many things come into play. I like manly men not girly...nothing wrong with them, just not fo me. My friend "T" was like that. One of the first things that turned me on to him was...he went swimming with just his underwear. He left his wet underwear in my car...I still have them. He would alway pass out when drinking, I would un zip him and have my fun. Then, we were camping and he changed his pants (to shorts) in front of me before we went to bed. We had only one blanket so that was the night I got it all so tp speak. He has since married divorced and had many girl friends. He stops by from time to time to have a drink and talk about old times. Before he leaves we always have great sex. No one would ever think he did such things and I certainly won't tell. Now that is just one story. I have 2 other "old friends" that keep in touch with. Girls think they have their men under control...haha makes me laugh. they love sex and we are here to love them>! Given the right time and place you can have any str8 guy you want.I have had many. Sometimes it takes a while to gain the trust. One of my stories: I don’t fall for guys totally over looks. Some many things come into play. I like manly men not girly…nothing wrong with them, just not fo me. My friend “T” was like that. One of the first things that turned me on to him was…he went swimming with just his underwear. He left his wet underwear in my car…I still have them. He would alway pass out when drinking, I would un zip him and have my fun. Then, we were camping and he changed his pants (to shorts) in front of me before we went to bed. We had only one blanket so that was the night I got it all so tp speak. He has since married divorced and had many girl friends. He stops by from time to time to have a drink and talk about old times. Before he leaves we always have great sex. No one would ever think he did such things and I certainly won’t tell. Now that is just one story. I have 2 other “old friends” that keep in touch with. Girls think they have their men under control…haha makes me laugh. they love sex and we are here to love them>!

]]> Comment on How to seduce a straight guy by Brad http://guystogether.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/how-to-seduce-a-straight-guy/#comment-284 Brad Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:31:46 +0000 http://guystogether.wordpress.com/?p=38#comment-284 Thankx...this is what my mind says...but heart tries go the other way...Neways thanks again...I would try to control my heart...I have also decided that I would not do anything at the cost of our friendship and I would not be the first one to initiate that TOUCH..and would wait if he does so. Thankx…this is what my mind says…but heart tries go the other way…Neways thanks again…I would try to control my heart…I have also decided that I would not do anything at the cost of our friendship and I would not be the first one to initiate that TOUCH..and would wait if he does so.

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