Yeah, that’s pretty close.

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2 Responses to “Yeah, that’s pretty close.”

  1. Chuck Long Says:
    June 17, 2009 at 2:18 pm | Reply

    The fact that you enjoyed “kissing”your friend is not indicative that you’re gay, if the ‘kiss’ was one of affection.

    You can usually discern a ‘gay’ type feeling in your gut as opposed to a kiss that is prompted by overwhelming emotional need to be close, but not intimate with someone.

    I’ve been lucky in my life in that I’ve had very straight males who can be totally comfortable with that ‘little lip action’ as a means of affection. Now mind you, I don’t go around kissing guys as a habit, but it is an emotional encounter and both of you need to be ready for it.

    So, I’m not sure where you’re at with this, but it doesn’t really matter. If the kiss and therefore the emotion is platonic(the way you kiss as a pure means of affection, like some cultures do-ie-latins,) then if the other person doesn’t have a problem with it, why should you.

    If the kiss is “deeper’(only you know this) you will most likely have a stirring or feeling within that denotes “intimacy”.

    I have one or more articles on this topic within my blog archives. If you’d like to read the post , simply contact me at reidercody@yahoo.com or go to the archives at http://www.theconflicted male.com

    • maybebi Says:
      June 17, 2009 at 8:22 pm | Reply

      Sounds like you’re trying to reassure me about the possibility of non-sexual kissing. Well, I appreciate that, and I certainly understand that guys can exchange a kiss of friendship, or peace, or excitement, without any worries about anyone being gay. In the context of the whole series, the character explaining his feelings has always identified as straight, but has had increasingly strong feelings (romantic and sexual both) for one of his best friends. As he puts it, “… I’m not thinking about gender. I’m just thinking about him.” That was the bit that I identified with (as in “yeah, that’s pretty close”) – not so much “omg! I just kissed my best friend! what do I do?!?!”

      I think “close but not intimate” is a bit of an oxymoron, unless you just mean “intimacy” as a euphemism for sex. I suppose a casual hookup (physically close but without any emotional connection) might qualify, but I don’t know – the idea’s completely alien to me personally.

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