Okay, so, new blog. Fantastic. What’s it about?
Basically, it’s about how guy friends (including brothers/cousins/other close, same-age family) relate to each other. What we do, what we don’t do, why we do it.
I already put up a page about my background and reasons for writing here – basically, I grew up without a brother or close buddy, now I’ve got one who might as well be my brother. I’m straight, he’s gay. We’ve gotten into stuff that’s not quite inside the rules for “good touch” among guys – both emotionally and physically. I wanna figure out why – and why it feels so ‘normal’. Part of that involves typing out my thoughts; part of it is (hopefully) getting feedback from other guys about what feels ‘normal’ to them, and why. Girls are welcome, too.
(Think I’m a closet case and I should just grin and go gay? Say so if you’ve gotta, but it’s gonna be a tough job convincing me.)
Thanks for listening.
November 9, 2007 at 12:27 am |
You say you’re not romantically attracted to guys, yet you’ve “gotten into stuff that’s not quite inside the rules for “good touch” among guys – both EMOTIONALLY and physically” – emphasis on the emotional part. It just seems like a contradiction to say you’re not romantically attracted to someone yet you have an emotional connection with them? It kind of doesn’t make sense.
November 9, 2007 at 1:14 am |
Do you have siblings? a brother or sister? Parents? That’s an emotional connection right there – shared experiences, similar upbringing, perhaps similar personality. You can have emotional connections with friends in the same way.
In most cases that’s not the same as a “romantic” connection. Romance still requires an emotional connection – how can you feel romantic towards someone without feeling anything toward them? So “emotional” includes “romantic”, but there are other types of emotional connections that don’t involve romance.
As far as that being “good touch” goes – well, at least in my culture there are limits on when, how much and how deeply guys can talk about their feelings about each other. Even describing it as “I have feelings for you, dude” is going to come across as “sounding gay” – even though (as above) there’s all kinds of feelings, most of which have little or nothing to do with sex and romance.
So the fact that my “brother” and I can (and do) talk about emotional stuff puts us, I think, a bit outside the usual limits that way too.