As an example – Guys, where would you touch your best bud? Handshake, slap on the shoulder/back, that’s probably about it. That’s just part of the rules (at least here in North America, and at least for straight guys).
But why? Why not, say, hug each other? What’s the big deal if your leg touches his leg as you’re sitting together on the couch? “Dude, that’s gay!”
(Feel free to comment with counterexamples.)
But why? If you’re not interested in him that way and he’s not interested in you that way, how is it that that crosses the line?
I think it’s because we’ve allowed ourselves to define touching only in terms of girls.
If you’re with your woman (not actually having sex, just around each other) there’s far more places you can touch each other. Just about anywhere, actually. If you’re with a girl you’re interested in, there’s still a lot more freedom – basically anything she’s comfortable with, right?
Touching is something we do to get laid.
With that in mind, of course we don’t touch each other much. The trouble isn’t that we don’t want to sleep together – the trouble is that we’ve let “touch” be *exclusively* linked to sex. Why?
As always, feel free to tell me I’m completely off base…
Thanks for listening.
June 17, 2009 at 11:45 am |
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